13-02-2017 11:12 PM
15-02-2017 09:13 AM
I am hearing that you are feeling tired and alone. You are with friends here, we are all to familiar with these uncomfortable emotions.
Can I share a couple of things that have helped me personally?
1. Getting support through Carers Australia and Wellways. Carers Aust provided counseling and Wellways a care workers who visits me in my home. This forum is a great spot too to get understanding and help. (They also have workers for patients, if your partner is amenable).
2. Understanding the condition and its treatment. Ensuring I have an active role in his treatment plan, that he has regular psychiatrist appointments and adheres to his treatment plan are boundaries I have set.
3. I started to get some self care happening. After a major crisis I am not quite back into my garden but am able to do some things for myself that help refuel the tank to keep me going.
It is difficult and frustrating when we see there are things our loved ones could be doing that could help themselves but they don't do them.
As you get supports in place and have some self care happening you might feel strong enough to set some boundaries. These are relationship rules that help protect our hearts and enable us to keep supporting the ones we love.
16-02-2017 02:30 PM
16-02-2017 03:04 PM
@hippyjingle67 Doing some things for you and not letting his mindset cause you to isolate yourself seem the top priorities to me, along with maintaining your right to respect.
Doing things together is a great ideal for a relationship but in the meantime focus on the things you can change and have control over, your own life.